Couples & Relationship Work

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Why People Come

I work with people in all kinds of relational configurations—couples, partnerships, chosen families, and beyond. What my clients share in common is a deep desire for change and the courage to do the work it takes to create the relationships they truly want.

Many come because they want to bring their best selves into relationship, yet find themselves getting tripped up by familiar struggles:

  • Fear of losing themselves in the partnership

  • Re-creating codependent patterns

  • Fear of loss that blocks vulnerability

  • Over-giving, agreeing to things they don’t want, or leaving before they can be left

Why It’s So Hard

Most of us didn’t grow up with role models who showed us how to communicate well—with accountability, presence, and genuine curiosity about another person’s experience. It’s easy to get caught in the trap of wanting to be understood so badly that we stop really listening to our loved ones.

Each of us carries our family system into relationship: unspoken expectations, roles shaped by birth order, and patterns that taught us what was “appropriate” to say and feel. Over time, these inherited dynamics can leave partners stuck in unfulfilling cycles of disconnection, resentment, or self-abandonment.

What We Work On Together

In our sessions, I help partners:

  • Recognize where communication has broken down

  • Create a safe and grounded space to talk about uncomfortable topics

  • Identify blind spots and unconscious patterns that keep intimacy blocked

  • Set mutual goals and intentions for the relationship

  • Learn practical, embodied skills that can be applied immediately

This isn’t just about insight—it’s about integration. The skills you learn aren’t theoretical; they’re tools you can practice in real time to build intimacy and resilience.

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My Approach

What makes my work different is the way it combines relational coaching with energy embodiment and body-based awareness. Together, we focus on presence, compassion, and authentic expression. With support, couples can begin to move out of survival patterns and into conscious, creative partnership.

I especially enjoy working with couples who are curious about how their relationships can become a path of personal and spiritual growth. The way we show up with each other mirrors how we meet the challenges within ourselves. With courage, compassion, and a willingness to grow, relationships can become a living practice of intimacy, authenticity, and connection.

Your Invitation

If you and your partner (or partners) are ready to step into new ways of relating, I would be honored to walk alongside you. This work isn’t about quick fixes. It’s about building the kind of relational foundation that allows intimacy to deepen and evolve, so your connection feels like a place where everyone can thrive.